How do I deal with my past?

In Northern Chile there exists a very high plateau called “Chajnantor” (which means “place of departure”) located in the Atacama Desert. It’s higher than most of the Earth’s atmosphere, situated at around 16,500 feet.

At this incredibly high location, it provides perhaps the best location on the planet to build a telescope. In fact, that’s just what exists: it’s called the “Atacama Large Millimeter/submillimeter Array,” or ALMA for short. As a radio telescope, it is able to see and take pictures of various kinds of light waves that the naked eye can’t see. It allows scientists to see parts of the universe that no other telescope can see. The results are amazing.

There was an interesting news bit on this telescope. (http://www.cbsnews.com/news/alma-peering-into-the-universes-past/)

A local Chilean physicist, Eduardo Hardy, ALMA's director of North American Operations, spoke to the host about how the radio telescope uses the dark patches of the universe. In addition to taking pictures of places of light we already see, it also peers deep into the darkness.

As Dr. Hardy said it, “The Greek used the stars. The local populations used the dark patches, which is precisely what ALMA is looking at. And in these dark patches, they saw reflections of their daily lives...llamas, for example. They spun a whole mythology around them. Here, the Milky Way is a river. And it actually does look like a river. But it's a river that will take the souls of the dead people and take them to heaven.”

Then it hit me. This was really striking. I’ve never heard of that phenomenon. I know that nearly all other people groups around the world used the stars and planets—the “light places”—to be used as guides and help create narratives. I’ve never known that you could use the dark patches of the night sky to be used as guides or to be used to create images and narratives that symbolically represent the values of an entire community.

It is the same in life, isn’t it?

Our past is full of “dark patches,” isn’t it? Isn’t it easy to think back to all the events that happened to us—those times when we were genuine victims—and recognize how damaging those events were? And can’t the same be said of those times where we weren’t victims, but made really bad choices? What events haunt you? What people haunt you?

(You might be denying this last point right now because you’re not an integrated individual. You don’t acknowledge the pain you’ve caused others or to yourself. If you’re one of those persons who “has no regrets” in life, then I don’t trust you at all. Those with no regrets are dangerous because they don’t make appropriate changes when they blow it.)

What are your “dark patches” right now?

The Chileans looked at the dark patches and drew images of animals and events that helped narrate the values of their people. What about you? What do you do when you see the “dark patches” in your life?

• Do you look at the “dark patches” and cry? (That’s healthy; you’re just grieving).

• Do you look at the “dark patches” and get angry? (That’s healthy; you’re protesting, which is part of grieving.)

• Do you look at the “dark patches” and blame others for your own bad choices? (That’s unhealthy; figure out why you can’t take responsibility for your choices. Is it too painful? Are you so prideful, above the rest of us, such that you can’t admit wrong choices? Etc.)

Or, do you look at the “dark patches” of life and see major turning points in your life?

In organizations, it is really easy to focus too much on the "dark patches." Losing key personnel can destroy morale; drops in the economy can destroy morale; betrayal within the company can destroy morale; bad business choices can. . . you get the point. Momentum, productivity, energy, focus, and money can be sapped for a variety of reasons. And since organizations are run by people, and not robots, being able to process the emotions that come with "dark patches" in an organization is absolutely crucial for the future.

What do you do with your “dark patches”? Do you see any kind of direction and narrative? Or, do you choose to only pay attention to the bright spots in your life?

Get to the place where you can look intently at the "dark patches." Process whatever feelings arise when you do. Learn from them. As you heal, use those "dark patches" as a guide: part of the great metanarrative of your life or organization that gives you direction and purpose.

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